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Fuck Buddies

Fuck buddies are a form of sexual relationship that does not include a romantic or emotional component.

Fuck Buddies Possible Benefits

  • Being able to experience sexual gratification without having to manage the complexities of emotions and/or romance.
  • It is easier to fit into a busy work or life schedule than an emotional and/or romantic relationship.
  • A fuck buddy who has been tested for STIs can provide consistent sexual gratification with a lower risk of STI transmission than engaging in serial casual encounters.
  • Not having to engage in courtship rituals can save both parties money.
  • Both partners (should) understand that the relationship revolves around nothing more than sexual gratification.

Fuck Buddies Possible Drawbacks

  • As sex can be a very intense act, there is a chance that one person may experience unreciprocated romantic emotions.
  • For some, the emotional and/or romantic elements of a relationship are an integral part of sex, and the fuck buddy relationship may not be fulfilling.
  • The lack of emotional components can sometimes translate into a lack of care for the other person’s pleasure or a lack of respect for the other person.
  • The lack of romantic or emotional components can make it difficult to prioritize a fuck buddy, making consistency difficult.

Managing A Fuck Buddy Relationship

Be clear about your intentions and boundaries as fuck buddies from the beginning so as not to cause confusion.

  • Understand that even if intentions have been made clear, emotions may eventually surface. Fuck buddy relationships, like other relationships, are constantly evolving.
  • If unreciprocated emotions surface, discuss whether those feelings can fit into the agreed-upon fuck buddies arrangement.
  • Know that a discussion of emotions could result in the end of the arrangement of being fuck buddies.
  • Understand that not all relationship styles are for everyone. It is okay if you try a fuck buddy relationship and realize that it isn’t for you. Lots of relationships end. Most people need to experience different dating types of relationships to know what actually works for them.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

"Alex" Caroline Robboy,

“Alex” Caroline Robboy, CAS, MSW, ACSW, AAMFT, CSTS, LCSW is the founder and executive director of the Center for Growth Inc / Sex Therapy in Philadelphia, a counseling organization that has an office in Ocean City, New Jersey, Richmond Virginia, Alphretta Georgia and 2 offices in Center City, Philadelphia PA.   In her space time she launched the directory sextherapy.com as a resource tool for professionals dedicated to improving peoples sexual health.  Alex has 25+ years of clinical experience working with adults and children. Specifically, she works with people struggling with compulsion problems, personality disorders, neurodiversity (dyslexia, tourettes, sensory issues, adhd, and high functioning autism) anxiety, depression, postpartum depression, shame, trauma, low self-esteem, grief, relationship issues, sexual function & dysfunction, blended families and parenting concerns. Currently, she provides individual, couples, family therapy and group therapy. Lastly, she offers supervision to both staff and therapists outside of this agency seeking their LCSW or AASECT Certification in sex therapy.  Lastly, thru the Philadelphia International Women’s Project, she led a two year sex therapy group for West African women who experienced Female Genital Cutting as well as a sex therapy group for Sudanese women who experienced Female Genital Cutting. 

Ms. Robboy earned three graduate degrees at the University of Pennsylvania; Masters in Social Work, Post-Masters in Certificate Marriage and Family Therapy with a Specialization in Sex Therapy and a Certificate of Advanced Studies in Human Sexuality Education (otherwise known as ABD) as well as a Certificate in Home and School Social Work. Additionally, Ms. Robboy is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor of Sex Therapy and an ABS Certified Sexologist. Lastly, she is a Certified Imago Therapist. She is currently pursuing certification in CBIT.