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Single. Being single is a relationship style where a person is sexually and/or romantically unattached.

Various Meanings.  Although the term ‘single’ may be interpreted as someone who is completely unattached to anyone in a sexual/romantic sense, one may find that the term is used more loosely. Two (by no means exhaustive) examples of alternative meanings of ‘single’ are people who are in relationships but unmarried or those in sexual but non-romantic relationships.

Possible Benefits to Being Single

  • Freedom of making life choices independently.
  • Ability to date, have sex with, or engage in romantic liaisons with a range of people.
  • More time can be focused on personal development and the development of family relationships and friendships.
  • No partner-related worries, stress, or management of other negative relationship-related emotions.
  • If single after a long-term relationship, one may enjoy the newfound sense of freedom involved with being single.
  • Privilege in certain social or professional situations (i.e. bars).

Possible Challenges to Being Single

  • If a relationship is desired, one may experience negative feelings (i.e. loneliness) due to being single.
  • Pressure from friends or family to be in a relationship.
  • Finding partners for sexual or romantic liaisons may be sporadic.
  • If engaging in multiple casual sexual encounters, the risk for STIs increases.
  • Misunderstanding about singlehood by those choosing other relationship styles.
  • Alienation from friends who are coupled.
  • If single after a long-term relationship one may find it difficult to navigate dating, sex, etc.
  • Disadvantage in certain social or professional situations (i.e. running for political office).

Tips on Being Single

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

"Alex" Caroline Robboy,

“Alex” Caroline Robboy, CAS, MSW, ACSW, AAMFT, CSTS, LCSW is the founder and executive director of the Center for Growth Inc / Sex Therapy in Philadelphia, a counseling organization that has an office in Ocean City, New Jersey, Richmond Virginia, Alphretta Georgia and 2 offices in Center City, Philadelphia PA.   In her space time she launched the directory sextherapy.com as a resource tool for professionals dedicated to improving peoples sexual health.  Alex has 25+ years of clinical experience working with adults and children. Specifically, she works with people struggling with compulsion problems, personality disorders, neurodiversity (dyslexia, tourettes, sensory issues, adhd, and high functioning autism) anxiety, depression, postpartum depression, shame, trauma, low self-esteem, grief, relationship issues, sexual function & dysfunction, blended families and parenting concerns. Currently, she provides individual, couples, family therapy and group therapy. Lastly, she offers supervision to both staff and therapists outside of this agency seeking their LCSW or AASECT Certification in sex therapy.  Lastly, thru the Philadelphia International Women’s Project, she led a two year sex therapy group for West African women who experienced Female Genital Cutting as well as a sex therapy group for Sudanese women who experienced Female Genital Cutting. 

Ms. Robboy earned three graduate degrees at the University of Pennsylvania; Masters in Social Work, Post-Masters in Certificate Marriage and Family Therapy with a Specialization in Sex Therapy and a Certificate of Advanced Studies in Human Sexuality Education (otherwise known as ABD) as well as a Certificate in Home and School Social Work. Additionally, Ms. Robboy is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor of Sex Therapy and an ABS Certified Sexologist. Lastly, she is a Certified Imago Therapist. She is currently pursuing certification in CBIT.