What is Premature Ejaculation? Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates quicker than he wants to during a sexual experience. At times premature ejaculation can be very frustrating for men due to the lack of control over their ejaculation. Premature ejaculation can occur with minimal sexual stimulation before, during, or shortly after penetration or before the male wishes to ejaculate occurring with marked distress and interpersonal difficulty. The latest Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM 5) indicates under 1 minute after penetration, but men orgasming in under 3 minutes may cause just as much stress on you and your relationship. Premature ejaculation could either be lifelong or partner specific. Keep reading to identifying the type of premature ejaculation you have.
Assessing the type of premature ejaculation Now that you are aware of some of the triggers and red flags let me ask you this, have you found yourself becoming frustrated at your performance in the bedroom with your partner? Have they been frustrated with the outcome of your performance? Do you find your self-esteem diminishing? If so, lets uncover some of the potential setbacks that are keeping you stuck. Consider these statements:
- This has always been an ongoing issue for me
- This started happening recently, but beforehand I didn't have this problem
- This occurs with different partners, different situations, and with different stimulation
- This only occurs with a particular partner
- This only occurs in certain situations
- This only occurs with a specific stimulation
What does it mean if you can relate to any of these statements? Continue reading to uncover what type of premature ejaculation you are experiencing (numbers correspond to statements above):
1: Lifelong
For some men, premature ejaculation starts in their early teens and last into their adult lives. This type of premature ejaculation is known as lifelong. This could be the product of over training your brain to have a hurried experience. It could also be a biological issue. It would be beneficial to have a urologist run tests to rule out the potential of biological factors that may attribute to your premature ejaculation. If biological factors are ruled out, sex therapy would be the next step to treatment.
2: Acquired
Men who had not experienced premature ejaculation in their past sexual experiences but is a current issue are more likely to have acquired type. This can be due to physiological or psychological factors. The urologist should be the first line of action. If physiological factors had been ruled out, other leading causes could be stress and/or anxiety.
3: General
This type of premature ejaculation exists when there is not a particular source of stimulation that causes the climax. It could be with any partner, situation, or stimulus.
4-6: Situational
Lastly, situational premature ejaculation occurs when there is a specific source such as a particular partner, particular situation, or particular stimulus that elicits an early ejaculatory response.
Now that you have a good idea about premature ejaculation and types, now consider the psychological factors that can play a part in the continued experience. Consider how you learned about masturbation and sex. Was it a taboo topic that was presented as being wrong or dirty? Were you shunned after others knew about you masturbating? Did you feel the need to hide it? Did you feel guilty for doing it? When did you realize cumming too fast was an issue? Did you feel different after the realization?
These questions will help you explore the root of your problem if it is a psychological issue. This issue translates into a problem within your relationship when you and your partner are not getting a fulfilling sexual experience. You may began to doubt your worth and become insecure and your partner may become frustrated and not pleased.
If medical factors have been ruled out for your premature ejaculation, you can regain your confidence in the bedroom, last longer and enhance your sexual self-esteem by seeking sex therapy or by visiting websites such as ours.
To help you overcome your premature ejaculation