Handjob: A How To Guide A handjob can start either with a flaccid penis or with one that is fully erect, for this exercise begin the handjob with a hard/erect penis.
The Basics. Have your partner lay down on his back, depending on which hand you use sit on either side of your partner, for best access to his penis, it would be best to sit upright by his waist, with your facing towards his. Why the face towards his. The purpose is to engage in eye contact with your partner; it increases intimacy, and enforces the focus is on him and his body.
Begin by gently teasing the area around your partner's penis by taking both hands and with the very tips of your fingers. Start at the knees, slowly and gently stroke around his thighs (inner and outer and tops of his thighs) and move upwards stopping at his waste, and then stroke back down towards the knees. The goal here is to make him want you more, by adding to the excitement of anticipation of more pleasure and more of you. The more anticipation you build during the teasing phase, the more excited he will be during direct stimulation, that you will save yourself and your hand by getting your partner off in less than 10 minutes.* Play around with these motions for approximately one minute, if you tease him too long, boredom might ensue, and you don't want him to lose his erection. While continuing to lightly stroke his skin with the tips of your fingers, gradually move closer to the area around the base of his penis. This is a good way to build your partner's excitement in anticipation to the handjob itself. If you've noticed the penis becoming flacid, skip over the teasing, and move on to more direct touch and penis play. e play less, more direct touch/play. Take the hand you're most comfortable in using, and lightly grasp the base of your partner's penis, having the inside of your palm and all five fingers wrapped around the shaft. While keeping your grasp, begin to move your hand up and down your partner's haft slowly and keep your grip on his penis relaxed and light, but be sure to have your whole hand around the shaft. Increases the amount of contact, wider range of touch; more surface area being covered. Continue the light grasp with slow motions starting at the base, then move your hand all the way up the shaft, once at the ridge (the area directly beneath the tip) glide your hand past the ridge and over the tip of the penis and into the air, then glide your whole hand back down to the base of the penis. You want this to be one complete flowing movement from the base to the tip and vice-versa without stopping. *Quick note about the head of the penis, this is the most sensitive part of the penis, especially the underside of the head (also known as the frenulum) and the ridge. So, when you approach the head of the penis, do so with caution and soft touch with your hand. Continue to stroke his penis (base to head) with your whole hand with the lighter grip and slower pace for about one minute. Increase the pace based on your partner's breathing. The heavier and intense his breathing is, the faster pace and firmer grip you should use. Keep in mind there is a difference between gripping and squeezing. Gripping, yes; squeezing, NO! Imagine you are shaking a bottle of salad dressing to mix the liquids, vs squeezing the very last bit of toothpaste out of the tube. Prior to ejaculation you need to be a very firm grip, using fast-paced motions repeatedly.
Handjob - Hand stamina As for the length of a handjob, the amount of time needed varies from guy to guy. So for the very giving and patient partners out there with a longer-lasting man in their life, this paragraph is for you. To find the right position for sitting and for your hand will take time by playing around with various positions and styles. As previously recommended, the upright seated position will give you more access to switching hands easily when your dominant hand needs a break, as will it give you the ability to stroke your partner and massage his partner's testicles with your free hand. The more support you can give the “active” hand the better. For example, in this position depending on the side you are seated, your active arm can be resting on your partner's thigh while give him a fabulous and long-lasting handjob all at the same time.
For the guy who lasts way beyond your very tired hand, have him take over for the last leg. Let him know you find it sexy to watch him please himself, and you want to learn what he likes. When he's about to reach the point of no return, get back in there, take over for him, and finish what you started and watch him enjoy the finale.
Handjob - The finale Unless your partner gives you a heads up, there are few signs that he is on the verge of ejaculation. The signs include: moaning/groaning, your partner's muscles may tighten, and his penis veins may bulge.
At the point of ejaculation, if your partner is not giving you feedback of when to stop, continue the stroking motions through the ejaculation. At this point, when to stop is up to you. If you're not comfortable with your hand(s) coming in contact with his semen, then remove your hands as soon as you see him ejaculate.
The ejaculation/semen phase can be an awkward moment when you're not sure when, or how your partner is ejaculating. At the point of ejaculation tell your partner you want to see all of him in complete bliss, by watching him ejaculate onto his stomach. Run your fingers through his hair while he is mid ejaculation, or simply place your hand on his chest. This lets him know that you're sharing this moment with him, as you have been since the beginning of the handjob. You can keep a warm basin by your bed and with a warm washcloth and help your partner clean up by gently rubbing his stomach with the washcloth while telling him how sexy it was to watch him enjoy your touch. If you realized you forgot the handy bedside basin, invite your partner to join you for a shower and you can both take turns washing each other.
The handjob doesn't have to be all about the penis, it can also involve caressing the parts of the body around the penis. This can include the inner thighs, arms, ankles, or anywhere your partner likes to be touched. You can stop the handjob to tease your partner, while exploring other parts of his body, or even to just give your self a chance o break, remember it's not a race! You can give your partner a head massage by firmly rubbing your fingertips all over his scalp while taking turns with running your fingers through your hair. Another fun idea to pleasure your partner while taking a break from the penis would be to straddle him so you can stroke, rub, and tickle his chest and arms with your fingertips and hands. While you are touching his penis with your hand, you have the opportunity to engage in eye contact, kissing, rubbing your body against his, or other intimate types of touching. Your partner may love the closeness and feeling of your body pressed up against his during the handjob.
Over time, you will learn that there is almost unlimited variation and opportunity for creativity. A good handjob can be a very intimate act and is an important repertoire to put int your bag of sexual activities. You will find that the handjob is one of the most intimate and exciting sexual activities you and your partner can engage in. As the style and experience of giving handjobs will vary with each guy, it will help you experiment with various styles and will help you figure out which one your man likes the best.