Pleasure Female Gspot

How To Find and Pleasure Female GSpot (g-spot) Although there seems to be a bit of mystery surrounding this particular erogenous zone, this how-to will provide simple steps any person can follow to help find and pleasure the G-Spot.

Important Note:  Although the term ‘woman’ is used throughout this how-to, anyone who is female bodied or has a partner who is female bodied, regardless of gender identification, may find this guide useful to pleasure the female gspot.

1. Be Aroused Before You Look

One common roadblock that folks come across in their journey to find the G-Spot is looking for it when the body isn’t yet turned on.  The G-Spot is a collection of glands that swell and become more sensitive with arousal.  If a body is turned on, the increased blood flow to the G-Spot will make it more sensitive, larger, and therefore easier to find.

Before you actually search for the pleasure female gspot, engage in some sexual play outside the vagina to encourage arousal.

2. Know The General Location

The G-Spot is located on the top wall of the vagina (toward the bellybutton), usually just past the pubic bone.  For some women it’s closer to the vaginal entrance, and for others it’s farther back.  The tissues of the G-Spot have a different texture than the rest of the vagina, with some describing the tissues as being similar to the tissues in the roof of the mouth.

3. Have Your Tools In Order

• Fingers If finding the G-Spot with a partner, fingers may be the best tools available to you.  Because fingers can feel the texture difference between the G-Spot and vaginal tissues, and because they are capable of small, pointed movement, the fingers have a tactile advantage for initial exploration of the G-Spot.  Although every woman enjoys her G-Spot stimulated in different ways, using the pads of the fingers while doing a ‘come-hither’ motion has been described as one effective way to stimulate the G-Spot.
• ToysAlthough some women are able to successfully find their G-Spots alone with fingers, some find the angle difficult or uncomfortable.  Toys can provide a comfortable, ergonomic way to find the G-Spot if someone has difficulty finding the G-Spot using fingers.  Dildos, stainless steel toys, glass toys, and vibrators designed for G-Spot play generally have a curved tip.  Stainless steel, glass toys, and hard plastic toys will feel harder and larger, while most vibrators and dildos will feel softer and more pliable when inside the body.  If a vibrator is chosen, you may want to explore with the vibration turned off until you’re sure you’ve located the G-Spot, as the vibration may make it harder to discern whether or not the G-Spot is being stimulated.
• PenisesPenises can sometimes be used to stimulate the G-Spot depending upon the curvature of the penis or the penetrative position.  If the penis has curvature, finding a penetrative position where the curve is pointing toward the top wall of the vagina may help in stimulating the G-Spot.  Regardless of curvature, penetrative positions where the penis angles toward the top wall of the vagina may provide G-Spot stimulation.  As all penises and vaginas are different, the positions that will work will vary from couple to couple.
• Lubricant Using lubricant on fingers, toys, or penises helps to decrease friction during play.  A decrease in friction can help with increasing sensitivity, which can make it easier for a woman to discern if her G-Spot is being stimulated or not.  Glycerine-free water based lubricants or silicone based lubricants are all recommended, especially for folks who are condom users.

4. Variations in the Pleasure Female Gspot Response

• Feeling Like You Need To Urinate When first engaging in G-Spot play, some women find there is a feeling of needing to urinate.  Upon feeling this, they disengage from play and assume that they don’t have a g-pot or that their G-Spot isn’t ‘working.’  However, feeling like you have to pee when the G-Spot is first stimulated is completely normal, as the glands that make up the G-Spot wrap around the urethra and are very close to the bladder.  If you experience a feeling of needing to urinate, simply let the feeling go for about 10-30 seconds.  If after that period of time, the need to urinate persists, it’s probably a signal that you need to urinate.  You can stop play for a moment, pee, and then return to play afterward.  If there is no need to urinate, the feeling of needing to pee will go away and feelings of pleasure will occur.  One can urinate before G-Spot play to ensure there isn’t an interruption.
• Menstrual Cycle For some women, G-Spot play only feels pleasurable at certain times throughout their menstrual cycle.  If G-Spot play doesn’t feel good the first time you try it, there is a chance that where you are in your menstrual cycle may be the reason.  If you try again at another point within your menstrual cycle, there is a chance the play will be more pleasurable.  Additionally, different types and/or intensities of G-Spot stimulation may feel good at different times throughout a woman’s menstrual cycle.
• Some Women Don’t Enjoy G-Spot Play As everyone experiences pleasure differently, there are those who do not find G-Spot play pleasurable at all.  This is a completely normal variation, and does not mean that anything is wrong.  It simply means that you don’t enjoy this kind of play, and you should focus on exploring and pleasuring other erogenous zones.
• Preferences Change Throughout the Life CycleBecause our bodies are constantly changing as we age, you may find that your preference for or against G-Spot play may change as you get older.  Additionally, different partners or emotions that you feel for your partner may change how you experience G-Spot play.
• Different Tools What you’re using to pleasure the G-Spot may also create a variation in whether or not G-Spot play feels good.  If you’re finding the play too intense, scale back the intensity of the touch, the level of vibration, or switch from using a toy to using fingers.  If you’re finding that you’re not feeling anything, you may want to use firmer touch, incorporate vibration, or use a toy with a harder texture.

5. Experiencing Orgasm

Different women need different stimulation in order to experience orgasms.  While some are physiologically capable of experiencing orgasm from G-Spot stimulation alone, many require additional clitoral stimulation with fingers, a tongue, or a vibrator in order to experience orgasm.  Orgasms will feel different depending upon what tools are being used, what is being stimulated, and how much play occurred before the point of orgasm.

6. Female Ejaculation

Upon experiencing orgasm, some women find that they will expel a clear, watery fluid from the urethra.  This is called female ejaculation.

• Female Ejaculation is NOT Urine Although female ejaculate will be expelled from the urethra, the chemical composition of the fluid is much closer to semen without sperm in it than it is to urine.
• The Amount Ejaculated Can Vary The amount of female ejaculate expelled can vary from the amount of fluid in a shot glass to about 1 cup of fluid.  The amount that individuals ejaculate varies from person to person, and can also vary within the same person (i.e. in one session a woman could ejaculate a shot glass worth, and in the next session, she may ejaculate a cup’s worth).  Intensity of orgasm, length of play previous to orgasm, level of hydration, and tools used can all be factors in the amount of ejaculate expelled.
• Projectile Ejaculate Although colloquially, female ejaculation is called “squirting,” most women will actually experience ejaculate being released in a ‘dribble.’  For some women, or during some sessions, women can experience ejaculation where ejaculate does “squirt” out of the urethra in a projectile fashion.
• Making Ejaculation More LikelyAs ejaculation can be pleasurable for some women and/or their partner(s), there are ways to increase the likelihood of ejaculation.  The more aroused the body becomes, the fuller and more swollen the G-Spot will get; making it more likely to expel the fluid inside.  To capitalize on this, women who can experience multiple orgasms may want to have one or two clitoral orgasms before ever stimulating the G-Spot.  For women who experience singular orgasms, bringing yourself to the edge of orgasm a few times before engaging in G-Spot play may increase your likelihood of ejaculating.

7. Other Factors To Keep In Mind

• Your Brain is Your Most Powerful Sex Organ Your mind is in control of the rest of your body during sex play, so if you are in any way feeling pressure, are not engaged in the moment, or are distracted, you may find that your play is negatively affected.  If at all possible, finding an environment that suits your play preferences may also help to engage your mind and body when finding your G-Spot.
• Communicate If you’re finding your G-Spot with a partner, make sure that you have ways to communicate when things are going well, when things can improve, and when play should stop.  After your exploration, it may also be a good idea to set aside time outside of sexual play to discuss how the play went.
• Write Things Down Because different factors can create variations in how you experience G-Spot play, it may be a good idea to keep a record of your exploration.  Not only will this help to keep track of your findings, but it can also aid you in articulating your preferences to your current or future partners.
• Find Support Friends, books, and the internet can be great resources in helping you with ideas or strategies for finding your g-spot or maximizing your g-spot play.