Serial Monogamy is a relationship style where a person engages in a committed romantic/sexual relationship with one person at a time. Before engaging in a new romantic/sexual relationship there is a termination of the previous relationship.
Possible Benefits to Serial Monogamy The following non-exhaustive list provides possible benefits when choosing serial monogamy:
- If both partners remain faithful, there is little risk of experiencing jealousy over outside partners or romantic interests.
- Choosing monogamy allows compliance with ideals set forth by various systems of belief (i.e. religion or cultural norms).
- When both partners remain faithful, STI risk is greatly reduced* or eliminated.
- The experience of being with someone for a long period of time provides unique insight into love and partnership.
- Learning creative ways to negotiate and fulfill romantic/sexual needs over the course of the partnership.
- The ability to leave a partnership when it is no longer functional, healthy, or fulfilling.
Possible Challenges to Serial Monogamy The following non-exhaustive list provides possible challenges when choosing serial monogamy:
- If monogamy is a part of a value system, one may feel pressured to choose monogamy even if it doesn’t fit their personal sexual/relational style.
- Keeping the romantic/sexual relationship engaging throughout the course of the relationship.
- Managing romantic or sexual feelings for people outside of the monogamous unit.
- Misunderstanding over monogamy by those outside of the relationship or those choosing other relationship styles.
- Having sexual/romantic needs that remain unfulfilled due to differences in romantic/sexual preferences.
- Fear or anxiety that a partner will leave and/or find a new partner.
- Making life decisions that involve another person.
*Some STIs can be transmitted through non-sexual means.