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Warning Signs Of A Sex Compulsion

Warning Signs Sex Compulsion:  If you have ever wondered if your partner struggles with a sex compulsion, read this list and discover for yourself how well your partner fits the description.

  •  Does your partner wake up early or stay up late to “watch TV” or use “the Internet”?
  • Does your partner prefer pornographic material to being sexual with you?
  • Does your partner engage in excessive use of pornographic material?
  • Does your partner disappear for periods of time or have unaccountable time?
  • Does your partner stay at work “late” or “work” on the computer late at night?
  • Does your partner isolate from his / her friends and family?
  • Does your partner lack sexual energy for you?
  • Does your partner have mood swings before and / or after sex?
  • Does your partner act controlling during lovemaking?
  • Does your partner act demanding about the time and place of sex?
  • Does your partner get mad if you turn his / her offer of sex down?
  • Does your partner throw temper tantrums if sex does not happen her / his way?
  • Does your partner have a sex pattern?
  • During sex, do you feel emotionally disconnected from your partner? Do you feel alone?
  • Can your partner accurately read your non-verbal sexual cues in bed?
  • Do you feel emotionally abandoned after sex?
  • Is your partner nicer to you once he / she got his / her sexual needs met?
  • Does your partner appear depressed?
  • Does your partner react negatively to someone articulating their discomfort about others viewing pornographic material?
  • Does your partner distance self from peers who might intimidate him / her?
  • Is your partner able to pay attention to others? Is she / he narcissistic?
  • Does your partner switch sexual behaviors to “demonstrate” to self or others his / her lack of sexual compulsion?
  • Does your partner lack a satisfactory explanation for the toll calls (900 numbers) on the telephone bill, the money spent on the credit card, or what he / she did with the cash withdrawn from the bank?
  • Does your partner always have an explanation for his / her behavior?
  • Does your partner tell an increasing number of white lies?
  • Does your partner tell you that he / she has a sex compulsion?
  • Do your partner's friends, family members or co-workers tell you that he / she has a sex compulsion?
If you believe your partner is struggling with a sex compulsion we strongly suggest that you seek professional help for yourself with a sex therapist.  The primary reason is that frequently a partner, even when confronted with your concerns may not be ready to admit the issue to her/himself  so they may deny having a problem, which can leave you feeling confused. Thus, we strongly encourage you to seek guidance for yourself as you are trying to assess the situation. Having an outsider look in may help you gain a realistic perspective on if you have a sex compulsion or not.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

"Alex" Caroline Robboy,

“Alex” Caroline Robboy, CAS, MSW, ACSW, AAMFT, CSTS, LCSW is the founder and executive director of the Center for Growth Inc / Sex Therapy in Philadelphia, a counseling organization that has an office in Ocean City, New Jersey, Richmond Virginia, Alphretta Georgia and 2 offices in Center City, Philadelphia PA.   In her space time she launched the directory sextherapy.com as a resource tool for professionals dedicated to improving peoples sexual health.  Alex has 25+ years of clinical experience working with adults and children. Specifically, she works with people struggling with compulsion problems, personality disorders, neurodiversity (dyslexia, tourettes, sensory issues, adhd, and high functioning autism) anxiety, depression, postpartum depression, shame, trauma, low self-esteem, grief, relationship issues, sexual function & dysfunction, blended families and parenting concerns. Currently, she provides individual, couples, family therapy and group therapy. Lastly, she offers supervision to both staff and therapists outside of this agency seeking their LCSW or AASECT Certification in sex therapy.  Lastly, thru the Philadelphia International Women’s Project, she led a two year sex therapy group for West African women who experienced Female Genital Cutting as well as a sex therapy group for Sudanese women who experienced Female Genital Cutting. 

Ms. Robboy earned three graduate degrees at the University of Pennsylvania; Masters in Social Work, Post-Masters in Certificate Marriage and Family Therapy with a Specialization in Sex Therapy and a Certificate of Advanced Studies in Human Sexuality Education (otherwise known as ABD) as well as a Certificate in Home and School Social Work. Additionally, Ms. Robboy is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor of Sex Therapy and an ABS Certified Sexologist. Lastly, she is a Certified Imago Therapist. She is currently pursuing certification in CBIT.