Enhancements for Sex
How to give a blow job - oral sex advice from a sex therapist in Philadelphia Giving a good blow job requires the following three elements: Being able to make your partner desire you even before your lips touch his penis Ability to read his body language Willingness to experiment Being able to make your partner desire you even before your lips touch his penis may sound difficult, but it’s not....
Bondage & Discipline, Sadism & Masochism, Dominance & Submission
Blindfolds Enhancing intimacy: the art of using blindfolds. The introduction of blindfolds is a great way to spice up a relationship that has gotten sexually stale. Too often people get sexually bored in relationships. People get bored emotionally, intellectually, and sexually. Too often people stop putting the energy required into their sex life to keep it feeling fresh. Thus, this tip is...
Medical Conditions and Sexuality
How to make healthy decisions about sex when you are in pain from Bleb Disease: Using a Bleb pain scale and sexual activity table (from The Center for Growth in Philadelphia) People with “bleb disease” grow blebs on their lungs. Blebs are weak spots on the lungs which can cause lung collapses if they rupture. If you have “bleb disease,” only you can determine if the pain you are e...
Desire Discrepancy
Understanding How Bleb Related Pain Can Impact Your Sex Life (from The Center for Growth in Philadelphia) People living with bleb disease may experience pain at various points in their life. Recovering from a chest tube, pleurodesis or a pleurectomy can be very painful. In addition, some people with bleb disease will experience chronic pain as a result of the surgery they...
Children, Teens and Sexuality
Birth Control Shot (Depo-Provera, Lunelle) The birth control shot, administered by a health care practitioner, is a type of hormonal birth control delivered into the bloodstream through in injection into the arm or buttock. Shots are designed to prevent pregnancy. How Long Birth Control Shot Lasts: Depo-Provera shots last for 3 months. Lunelle shots last for 1 month. Determining w...
Children, Teens and Sexuality
Birth Control Pills Birth Control Pills are a type of hormonal birth control taken orally (by mouth) every day in order to prevent pregnancy. How Long It Lasts: Each pill is designed to provide hormones for 1 day of use. Birth control pills generally come in packs of 28 days. 21 of the pills have hormones, and 7 pills are non-hormonal sugar pills. Menstruation occurs during the 7 days the ...
Children, Teens and Sexuality
Birth Control Patch Philadelphia (Ortho-Evra) The birth control patch (Ortho-Evra) is designed to prevent pregnancy. The birth control patch prevents pregnancy through the use of hormones. Literally, the patch is a small, sticky square and delivers hormones to the body through the skin. Typically the patch is placed on the arm, upper back, buttocks, or hips. How Long the...
Communication in the Bedroom
Better Sex Learn the skills to have better sex without ever actually meeting with a sex therapist in person. REQUIRED SKILLS to make BETTER SEX PACE YOURSELF: One of the most important skills to learn is how to pace yourself. Meaning, each time you learn a new sex trick, tip or idea only introduce one new idea/concept per week into your lovemaking with your lover. We suggest this for two reasons. ...
Dating
Benefits of joining a Herpes Support Group - run by a therapist at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia So you just learned that you are living with the herpes simplex virus and you are trying to figure out what to do? Consider joining a herpes support group. Developing a support network is key. You don't have to go through this alone. Help is available. The initial discovery of havi...
Dating
Should I Tell My Partner About Being In Counseling Should I tell my partner about being in counseling? the decision to tell a partner that you are in counseling can be a difficult and anxiety-producing one to make. There are no right or wrong answers - just different choices with different consequences. In making this decision to disclose that you are in therapy, you may be experiencing mixed feelings ...
Dating
Being Single with Premature Ejaculation - Premature ejaculation is a common problem. You may have found that when you are single, it has caused you to feel nervous and anxious about sex with a new partner. Will you be able to last long enough? How will they react if you can’t? Your anxiety or nervousness may even affect dating or in some cases cause you to avoid dating altogether. I...
Anxiety & Sex
Bedroom Blunders - how to handle the “Did that just really happen?” moment in bed So you just shared a nice romantic dinner date with your special someone, you’ve just come home and you’re ready to get things heated up. As you start to get undressed, playing it up for a little striptease while walking across the room, all of a sudden WHAM you trip and fall smack on your face! Or you’re already in bed, tryin...
Mood Disorders & Sex
Beating the Blues: Treatment for Depression, therapy in Center City, Philadelphia 10 Ways To Pick Yourself Up When You Are Feeling Down. So you find yourself in a lousy, down-and-out, drag around the house kind of mood and question if beating the blues is possible. It’s that heavy, sinking feeling where you get up, and you’ve barely gotten your day started before you just want to crawl back in bed. Even the...
Avoidance / Sexual Aversion
The Bath Exercise (Designed for survivors of sexual trauma or for people struggling with sexual aversions/discomforts from The Center for Growth in Philadelphia) Do you associate negative feelings with sexuality? Does intimacy always mean intercourse? Do you find yourself feeling anxious or withdrawing from situations that could lead to more? Is your ultimate goal to reclaim your sexuality and e...
Children, Teens and Sexuality
Baby's level of awareness of Sex Question: Does the baby somehow "know" that sex is taking place? Answer: False. The baby (fetus) is in a protected environment, thus preventing it from 'knowing' that you and your partner are being intimate, or even if and when you are masturbating. For the average uncomplicated pregnancy, having sex throughout your pregnancy is fine. If you have any questions or&...
Relational & Marital Problems
Avoid the Top 10 Marriage Zappers. As a child, I used to wonder what happened to the couple after they walked off into the sunset at the end of a Hollywood movie. As an adult, I know that sunset strolls and happy endings take lots of hard work and planning. Here are 10 life situations couples may face...post credit roll...and some ideas about how to keep the music playing! Marriage Zapper - Fighting Fa...
Dating
Herpes is most contagious during an outbreak, however, it can be spread even when no symptoms are present if the virus is active on the skin. This is called asymptomatic shedding. Though asymptomatic shedding occurs only several days each year, it is impossible to know which days it occurs. The surest way to prevent (or diminish) the spread of herpes is to avoid sexual contact during an outbreak and to use ...
Enhancements for Sex
Aphrodisiacs What is an aphrodisiac? An aphrodisiac is a food, herb, or drug that is supposed to enhance sexual arousal or desire. Some are natural and others are synthetic or man-made. The word aphrodisiac comes from Aphrodite, the Goddess of Love from Greek mythology. Aphrodisiacs are as old as the human race itself and there is a lot of folklore about love potions. Throughout history, ...
Anxiety & Sex
Anxiety & Depression Counseling Group in Philly (this counseling group has nothing to do with sex therapy) Anxiety & Depression Counseling Group Do you feel like individual counseling is not enough? Do you feel like you would benefit from being part of a therapy support group? Are you looking to gain feedback & support from other people who have also experienced anxiety and/or depression? If s...
Anxiety & Sex
Anxiety Treatment in Philadelphia About Anxiety Suddenly you’re overcome with an intense fear or sense of gloom. You feel as though you want to run, but don’t know why. You’re restless, unable to sit still. Your sleep may be interrupted, or you may suddenly startle during sleep. Your heart may race and pound, you may perspire, and you may feel faint. You find yourself worrying constantly over one or ...
