"Alex" Caroline Robboy

Children, Teens and Sexuality

Parenting a Child with ADD: Homework time and Home tasks

Parenting and ADHD/ADD during Homework and at Home Task Times Parenting can be a challenge all on its own! 　What is even more challenging is learning how to manage your child's ADHD/ADD in their daily routine, specifically during homework and at home tasks. 　If you find that you are struggling with this issue, continue reading to gain tips on how to be more successful when managing your child's ADHD/ADD beh...

Celibacy

Too busy for sex

Too Busy for Sex Your daughter forgot to tell you about the school project that’s due tomorrow.  Your son’s soccer game starts in 45 minutes and the washer just broke.  Your toddler got a raisin stuck up his nose, and there’s a huge deadline at work.  Are you too busy for sex?  Does the mere thought of getting naked and being sexy exhaust you?  Join the club!  So many of us are stuck in the frenzied pace of...

Sex Compulsion & Love Compulsion

Sex Compulsion Treatment and Sex Compulsion Recovery in Philadelphia

Sex Compulsion Treatment in Philadelphia / Sex Compulsion Recovery Articles A collection of sex compulsion recovery articles written by different sex therapists at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia.  Our hope is offer people living outside of Philadelphia a way to create their own sex compulsion treatment plan to help them recover.  There is no "right" way - only "your" way.  We hope that you find these sex compu...

Female Sexual Pain

Sex and Pregnancy: The Third Trimester

Sex and pregnancy, during the third trimester can be the most complicated stage.  Body pain, such as breast tenderness may challenge your ability to feel sexy, and your belly is bigger than ever (and still growing) along with the emotional changes can dramatically shift old patterns, habits and sensibilities. At this point in your pregnancy a third party presence (your bulging belly, that may even kick at t...

Types Of Therapy

Sex Therapy and Counseling in Philadelphia

So what exactly is sex therapy? Simply put, sex therapy refers to a therapist discussing sexual problems with a client. Sex therapy is superior to other forms of therapy for sexual problems because sex therapists and sex counselors have specific training in sexual function and dysfunction (sexual orientation problems, gender identity issues, erectile problems, poor sex drive, orgasm problems, affairs, infer...

Relational & Marital Problems

The Four Horsemen of Communication

The four horsemen of communication - a common theme among married couples is that anger and fighting are viewed as negative within the relationship. According to John Gottman, a leader in couple’s counseling and research, the release of anger can be positive within the relationship. Anger becomes problematic only when it is released in what Gottman refers to as the “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse.” The pur...

Dating

ReCentering Yourself After A Break-Up

You just broke up with your partner, and you now find yourself with an enormous amount of energy that you used to spend on that person. Take this opportunity to re-center that energy onto yourself. Often times, people tend to use this energy in the wrong way. You obsess about what you did wrong or get overly angry with the other person for breaking up with you. You experience negative thoughts that race out...

Communication in the Bedroom

Better sex - without ever actually meeting with a sex therapist.

Skills to having better sex without ever actually meeting with a sex therapist (written in no particular order) In long term relationships one basic strategy utilized in having good sex is to “pace” oneself.   Meaning,  each time you learn a new trick, tip or idea only introduce one new idea/concept per week to your lover.  We suggest incorporating only one knew sexual trick a week for several reasons. Fir...

Body Image Issues

African American Women and Self-Esteem: Society, Self-Consciousness and Self-Esteem

As an African American woman born and raised in Philadelphia, I have noticed some unique cultural experiences that could affect the behavior of my fellow counterpart sisters. Although I cannot speak for all African American women, some of these experiences are relatable to many women in my beloved city. These cultural overviews are intended to start a dialogue about factors behind the barriers to healthy re...

Relational & Marital Problems

Breaking The Negative Velcro Loop

Now that you know a little about how the Negative Velcro Loop starts getting into autopilot with your partner, by not having the awareness of what you are feeling, or by having the awareness of your experiences but not feeling safe to disclose these experiences to your partner, we can begin to break this Loop and create a Positive Velcro Loop. The first step is having the awareness that change is needed, th...

Relational & Marital Problems

Negative Velcro Loop

Most of us are looking to obtain a healthy and happy relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes we find ourselves stuck in what seems like an unhealthy, unhappy relationship with no insight as to how to fix it or what is even truly wrong. Understanding what a Negative Velcro Loop is and how it might be playing out in your relationship, can be helpful in understanding where you and your partner are stuck. It can...

Sex Compulsion & Love Compulsion

Identifying your Bottom Line Behaviors

In order to recover from sexual compulsion, there must be a bottom line definition of what sobriety is to you. Bottom line behaviors is a predetermined, concrete list of behaviors identified by the individual in recovery. These behaviors have been identified as harmful to the individual’s recovery, and the individual has decided he/she no longer wants to engage in. Identifying your bottom lines is a useful ...

Bondage & Discipline, Sadism & Masochism, Dominance & Submission

Flogging 101: Where and How to Flog

Floggers are versatile in the range of use and impact there are various strengths ranging from light, medium, and heavy strokes. For purposes of safety, especially for the novices, the best and basic area to flog is the upper back away from the spine (it’s important to avoid the spine to prevent any vertebrae/tissue injury). Other areas to flog, but do so with caution for issues of sensitivity and potential...

Fantasy

Ashamed

Ask Alex, After so many years of a drought I have discovered my sexuality. For years I was ashamed of how I felt. I suppressed feelings and created a mental world of fantasies. Now my fantasies are trying to take over my life. I find myself in between lies, sex, videotapes-/ Now I am living a double life and I don't like it. It feels like I'm cheating on myself. I want the ability to grow as one but I am a...

Erectile Dysfunction

Lubricate and Stimulate Exercise: Premature Ejaculation Treatment

Lubricate and Stimulate Exercise developed to treat premature ejaculation (If you use lubrication while masturbating skip this tip) Have you experienced penile hypersensitivity?  Do you notice that your penis is sensitive to limited stimulation or sensations? Do you experience ejaculating when your penis is touched, rubbed, minimally inserted in the vagina, or soon after insertion?  If so, start with this e...

Communication in the Bedroom

Premature Ejaculation Correction Exercise: Hand Job with Partner Participation

Hand Job with Partner Participation - initially developed to treat premature ejaculation, but is also simply a fun exercise Idea behind partner participation in overcoming premature ejaculation If you have premature ejaculation you are probably very aware of the emotional result of your experience.  Such feelings that may arise are guilt, shame, anxiety, anger, humiliation, worthlessness, and lack of contro...

Communication in the Bedroom

How do you know if you are bad at sex?

How do you know if you are bad at sex? Are you unsure of how to interpret your partner’s behaviors during and after sex? Does not knowing how you rank in bed impact your confidence for future sexual encounters? Gauging your sexual performance by the partner returning for a repeat performance isn't the only indicator of a successful encounter. Being viewed as “good” in bed / "bad at sex" is more complicated ...

Children, Teens and Sexuality

Sex and Pregnancy: A Husband's Reflection

The following is a written reflection received from a marriage counselor's client’s spouse about sex and pregnancy. This is a husband’s account of his experience of sex and pregnancy with his pregnant wife: “Personally, I have not experienced any decrease in physical attraction to my wife since we became pregnant. If anything, my sexual attraction to her has slightly increased during this time. I think ther...

Communication in the Bedroom

Just Because I'm Having An Orgasm, Doesn't Mean I'm Having Fun.

Are you one of those people that orgasm every time you get aroused, or almost every time? Have you ever shared a sexual experience with someone close to you then got the response, "well did you orgasm?" Then had the thought, “so what if I orgasm?” “Is that all there is to sex?” If you're in the category (which includes both men and women) of those who can get off at the drop of a hat, you're probably thinki...

Family Planning, Safer Sex & STD's

When is the ideal time to have a baby as a couple?

You've found yourself at a place in your relationship where you and partner are starting to have the discussion of “When is the ideal time to have a baby as a couple?” You and your partner may be realizing that, you're not so sure how to answer this question for you. For the couples who are in a place where the decision hasn't been made for them just yet, actively making the call and letting nature/fate/uni...